Now while I was asleep, this discussion has developed a lot, and in directions I am not really qualified to comment on. However, I would like to piggyback on something Wes said, to voice my opinion on an aspect that hasn't been really dissected so far.
So, I read that Hunter, while in the Hilda persona, started one or more "relationships", and people are criticizing the way he lied to those involved. Now, I know nothing about these "relationships" nor about the people who were in it but... How the hell do you start a "relationship" (something that, by definition, is based on trust) with someone you know absolutely nothing about, to the point that they can lie about their friggin' GENDER for so long? How the hell do you cultivate a "relationship" without ever meeting in person (because well, I assume one would be able to tell the difference between a girl named Hilda and a guy named Hunter, if they were to meet in person)? How do you trust so much someone you cannot even look in the eyes, specially considering that, as Wes said, this is the internet and cases of internet scams happen daily?
Maybe I am a bigot, maybe I am short-sighted, maybe I am speaking without knowing the full extent of things, but building a "relationship" on such basis seems like a very irresponsible thing to do. Which brings me back to the contraddiction I was dissecting with my OOTS reference; a topic in which the OP states he is going to be sincere by proclaiming himself a consumate liar essentially proves nothing, except the fact that this is the internet and everything could be a lie. None of us has any reason to believe anything that has been said in this topic (or in any other for that matter), outside of the concept of "mutual trust"... Which just took a massive blow courtesy of this very topic.
So again: how the hell do you build a "relationship" in such circumstances? Last time I checked, knowing the other person was a fundamental prerequisite for any "relationship", to the point that the phrase "let's try and get to know each other better" was a classic (if somewhat cliché) way to get a "relationship" started. And those who built a "relationship" with this person overlooked this very prerequisite, trusting a person they knew absolutely nothing about. How the hell do you do that? How do you up and decide to trust someone so easily?
Because make no mistake about it, this IS the case: none of you knew anything about this person. All you knew about him was what he said in the forum... WHICH TURNED OUT TO BE A BUNCH OF LIES. Which, again, means that "relationships" were built on essentially nothing. Again, that seems like a very irresponsible thing to do.
I know I am probably going to get some flame for this, but I just couldn't keep this to myself because... Well, because it strikes me as weird. Everyone is bashing this guy because he betrayed the trust people gave him, but nobody is talking about ON WHAT BASIS THEY DECIDED TO GIVE HIM SUCH TRUST TO BEGIN WITH. And maybe it is for the best that I, a stranger to such matters who barely knows anything about how things went, am the one to ask this question, because at least my vision of things is completely unbiased. I am not condemning Hunter for what he did, nor am I saying that those who trusted him are the ones to blame (the "it's your fault for letting yourself get tricked" cliché is just that, and I personally hate it). I am simply asking to know how things really went because, the way you people are making it sound right now, it seems to me that a lot of irresponsibility was involved, on both sides (because coming up with such a convoluted lie and keeping it for so long is an irresponsible thing to do, but believing in it on no basis is equally irresponsible if you ask me).