Maelstrom Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 Stolen from a Forbes article: https://www.forbes.com/sites/darrahbrustein/2017/11/19/the-55-best-questions-to-ask-to-break-the-ice-and-really-get-to-know-someone/#479be5cc3ca1 Because if you're gonna do it, it helps to have some examples (even if there a bunch you'll have to adjust to keep from sounding awkward af). I know some people have come up with a wall of AMA questions and I'd like those members to post 'em here for our consideration as well suggestions from everybody else. Quote Here’s a list of some better icebreaker questions to consider. I’ve broken them into mild, medium and hot so you can go deeper as your palate allows. Play with what works for you in various environments and points in a conversation. A ‘hot’ one is typically best if reserved until after you’ve warmed someone up a bit, so they feel comfortable enough to open up. Some environments create this intimacy quickly, in which case you can dive right in. And sometimes, a great precursor to any question is simply to admit that you’re over surface-level conversation and really want to learn what makes this person tick. So, might they mind your asking some untraditional questions, and speaking more authentically? With that, here are 55 questions you might want to try: Mild: Any upcoming travel plans? What brought you here? How do you two know each other? When you're not working, how do you like to spend your time? What are you reading currently? What’s the first concert you attended? Where do you most hope to visit? What’s your favorite book? What's your favorite 90’s show? What's the best Halloween costume you've ever had? What's your dream job? What's your favorite word? What was your first job? What's one thing you're excited about that's coming up in 2018? What was the worst job you've ever had? What is your most-used emoji? If you could win an Olympic medal for any sport, real or fake, what would it be? If you could change your name, what would it be? What movie or TV show title best describes your week? What was your favorite subject in school? What’s your hidden talent? If you had to eat one thing for every meal going forward, what would you eat? If someone were to play you in a movie, who would you want it to be? Medium: If you could spend a day in someone else’s shoes, whose would they be? Why? What's one thing your mother/father taught you that completely changed your life? What’s been on your mind lately? What’s the first career you dreamed of having as a kid? What’s the last text you sent? What's one of your favorite memories? What's one thing about you that surprises people? Who, or what, was your biggest teacher? What was something you've done that made you feel extreme happiness? Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give your 18-year-old self? If you could instantly become an expert in something, what would it be? What does success mean to you? (Continued on Page 2) What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given? Where is your happy place? If you could invite 3 people, dead or alive, to a dinner party, who would they be, and why? How can someone win a gold star with you? What energizes you and brings you excitement? What qualities do you value in the people with whom you spend time? For what would you be famous? What does your dream day look like? If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time? What’s your guilty pleasure? At what job would you be terrible? If you had to choose only 3 adjectives to describe yourself, which would you choose? Hot: What do you give a damn about? What is a dream you have that you’ve yet to achieve? What's something you say you'll do, but never will? What did you have to give up to achieve your current level of success? Has anything ever happened to you that you could not, and cannot, explain? Do you ever find there are things about you that people misunderstand? What are they? For what are you most grateful today? If you could have one 'do over' in your life, what would you do differently? Of what are you most afraid? See what it's like to stop leading a conversation with “What do you do?” and see how it makes you feel. How does your conversation partner respond? Do you find that it can be a shortcut to warm them up? And by taking that leap, does it give permission to others to break the mold of their typical conversation patterns? It takes time to build a relationship. The initial interaction should be used to find some chemistry and build rapport. If you can spark curiosity in getting to know you more, you've succeeded. Choose any of these questions to have in mind for your next interactions, and see what feels authentic to you in kickstarting new relationships. Most importantly, don’t attack someone with questions. When you ask, deeply listen. Any questions that come after should be a natural follow up to their response. These are helpful primers, but follow the course that the conversation takes. And then, you will eventually get to know what someone does. No need to lead with it. Ideally, it will uncover itself as you get to know what really matters to your new friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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